First dates are always exciting and will bring thousands of questions in your mind such as whether everything will go right? Will she like me? Will things work out? Will we get intimate? What will I talk and loads of other questions? First date often turns out to be embarrassing for many people because they have no idea that how should they react or behave.
Without thinking much you should relax and even make the other person feel comfortable.
Ways to Make Your First Date a Successful One
You should be calm and should try to make the other person feel comfortable. It’s your first meet and you should first start with friendly conversations to gain the other person’s confidence. Find about your date’s interest and talk on common interests. Say something nice about your date and compliment him or her. Don’t think about the outcome instead try to make a good impression on the other person and exchange valuable information which will help you decide whether you both should pursue a relationship or not.
Showing good manners such as welcoming your date with a good smile and a gift. Don’t forget to thank your date for coming even if you are not interested as it shows your manners. Don’t get drunk especially if your date is not willing to drink and it will show that you can’t control yourself or don’t know your limits. Be polite to your date and kind to others as it will reflect your manners. Dress up properly for the occasion and even smell good.
Give Her Attention
Since it’s your first date your attention should be focused on her only. You can even put your phone on silent mode and avoid unimportant calls.
Thank your date if she does not mind when you had a conversation with someone else. Talk about your date and avoid talking about your past.
Don’t Talk About the Thing You Hate in Your Date
You should always talk about the things you like about your date and not about the things you hate. Your date will always want to have a good fun time and is not in a mood to hear your grievances or your complains. If the person hears negative things about themselves they might not wish to meet you again.
Don’t Get Intimate
Avoid getting intimate in the first meet as it might create a bad impression. Your date might feel afraid to meet you again if your date is not willing to get intimate. Take permission from your date even before hugging as it would reflect your good character.
Choose Appropriate Location
Do be creative in choosing the location for your date. Search about some interesting place and take your date there so that the person feels special. First dates need not be movies or just a lunch because these often turn out to be boring. Take your date to the places where the person likes and avoid noisy places or your home as might create a bad impression on your date.
Take Interest in Your Date
Do try to make your date interesting. First date should be fun and not stressful. Don’t just sit for hours and talk nothing and make a fool of yourself. Be open and talk about yourself and even make an effort to know about your date.
Laugh on your date’s jokes and even ask questions and make him or her feel that you are interested in him or her and their talks. Talk about something or the other and don’t just keep quite and make the other person feel that you are boring.
Be On Time
Being on time is one of the most important parts of the first date. Being on time creates a good impression and if you are late it might happen that the person you are going to meet might not wait for you. If you are late it will create an impression that you don’t care about the other person and can even give a sour note to the beginning of your first date and you might loose your confidence. You are already very nervous so you should not give a bad impression at the first instance.
Don’t Show Off
Do be what you are. Don’t pretend because when the truth would be out the person would feel deceived or cheated. Find a person who wants you so it is better not to pretend if you want a loving and forever partner. Don’t give false promises if you have no intentions to call your date again. Don’t dress up in such a manner that your date will not be able to recognize you when they see you in your plain clothes on streets. Be true to your date.
Don’t Take Instant Decisions
Don’t judge a person in the first few seconds. Take your time and think whether you are willing to get into a relationship with that person or not. Don’t be in a rush to make your decisions because it takes a lot of time to understand a person. Try to understand each other and don’t get intimate on the first date. Understanding is any day more important in any relationship than physical attachment. Don’t forget to ask your date before getting intimate and don’t force her to get intimate.
First dates are usually an experiment and always be ready for both the outcomes that is it might or might not be successful. People are usually nervous for their first date but you should feel confident if you want to make your date a successful one. If you follow few tips your date will prove to be the best.
If you are friendly, cheerful and attractive and if your date had great time with you then you both might get into a relationship. If your first date is not successful don’t think of it again and again and just move on and make plans for another date in future. Try to avoid common mistakes and be on a safe side by talking about your date or letting your date speak.