When a baby is born the first people to see around when he /she opens his eyes are his parents. From the first day of his life two people who have brought him to life are his parents. Parents are like second god for children on earth.
What a child looks like, what he/she behaves like, his looks, his attitude, his brains all are gifted to him by his parents. Parents always know what his child want; they know what is good or bad for him. They know how the world better than their children and hence they know better how to protect them from the cruel selfish world.
In the beginning parents tend to pamper their kids give them everything they want just to show their love. In the starting the demands of the kids are innocent and object routed. Once the kids start growing up their mindsets change, their wants change and so do their demands and wishes.
The wishes no more remain innocent or of toys but they extend towards freedom, rights and equality. Parents generally have to face a rebellion from their own kids during their period of adolescence. At the age of 15 to 19 kids go through a drastic hormonal change and this change and reaction tend to affect their minds. This is the time when a child starts it transformation towards adulthood. This is the time when he builds up its base for his character, nature and gains the power of choosing between right and wrong.
Parents are generally scared about their kids when they are in their adolescence because they do not want their child to take up bad habits like smoking, drinking or worse he turns to be a drug addict. Children under peer pressure in order to look cool and become a part of his friends start adapting to habits which can later harm them. In order to keep their children safe parents start becoming strict and start over reacting on minor situations.
Some Mistakes That Parents Do
Parents start restricting their kids from his/her daily outings. They try to always keep a check on his activities. They sometimes interfere in his matters. They even try to intervene and discussing thing with his friends.
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They try to always maintain communication with his child’s friends. Parents try to cut out outings and initiate parties and activities at home which they could always keep an eye on. They force themselves on their child every time he/she goes out.
Result of Such Measures
All these activities and interference neither does any good to the child nor does it help the parents in any way. When the parents start becoming cling cutting out the kids outings it affects his mind, he turns to combat the situation with his defense mechanism which either results in turning him into a parents pet nerdy boy with no social life or either it makes him a rebellious kid who brings out all his anger from suppression through violence and fights.
When parents try to interfere in matters of his school and friends he/she feels embarrassed in front of his friends and he starts to dislike his own parents for being over protective and killing his social life with his friends. He tends to shy around people and starts maintaining distance from his parents.
When we try to keep kids home and ask him to party and celebrate in front of our eyes the kids stop all their social meetings , restrict his parents from knowing about any of the upcoming events .and hides away to do things which we do not allow him to do.
So basically we see that too much restriction only kill the communications and love that exist between a parent and his kid and finally the kids are tempted to try things which we try to keep them away from. As said, humans are always tempted for things that are forbidden for him.
Ways to Keep Your Child Safe
In difficult times or at times of desperate needs a child generally tends to go to his/her friends. Generally at the stage of adolescence the focus and love of the child shifts from their parents. They become partial towards their friends and peers and find it easy to relate to them. For them their parents start to gain the position of a head to whom he cannot relate or confide into.
The best way to keep your child safe is to be friendly. If we want to help out kids and know everything about their daily needs and activities we need to make them feel that we are one among them and that we are more a friend to him than his parents. Once your child starts relating to you and he sees that you can be trusted, that you think similar to what he thinks your work is done. Now your kid will be safe as he will find his best friend in you with whom he can talk and take advice. Try to talk to them about your own experiences.
Do not feel shy to talk to him /her about anything and everything that scares you. Talk to him freely, discuss your problems with him , ask his opinions , make him apart of your life. Try and always talk to him about what you think is bad or good for him, how you did in your adolescence, what were the problems you faced.
When the child will see that you confide in him and you share what you have done and gone through he will understand your worries and feelings much more maturely. He would take you and your advice as teachings and not just hard and bound rules pressurizing him. This shall bring him closer to you.
The major problem that a parent and child face today is of lack of communication and love. If could only talk and communicate with them nicely you shall find your kids closer to your heart. Always loving and caring about you.