Love becomes more solid and harder to be forgotten with time. When a long relationship comes to an end, the after effects that it causes are not only severe; but even long lasting. The pain one feels is more than dying a million deaths and thoughts of suicide starting planting in one’s head. However, it is necessary to be practical in life.
Though, moving on after a long relationship breaks is not easy at all; but the following tips must be taken into consideration, in order to keep un-wanted pain and thoughts at bay.
Tips to Cope Up With a Long Relationship Break Up
Say No to Sad/Romantic Songs
Any song; no matter it is motivating, sad or romantic; eventually, will drag you in the memories of the past times. Those memories will cause nothing else, other than a piercing pain. Stay away from any such song or a memory that makes you remember your broken relationship.
Irrespective of the cause of your break-up (no matter for how long you both were together), you will have to understand that life moves on and there is always something new in every lane of life. Staying glued at a single place will not bring back the one you lost and thus, you will have to keep yourself at a distance from any such thing that can possibly remind you of your long term but broken relationship.
Change of Place
There is no use is staying back at a house, full of those moments that you once lived with your ex. These things make it even more difficult for a person to move on. Therefore, it is always good to go out and explore some other destinations and places. Taking an off and going out on vacations with family, friends or even alone helps a lot in recovering with the trauma of a long relationship breakup.
These break-ups are not as simple as any other breakup; this is because, the longer the time you spend with someone, the closer you tend to get to him/her. It is hard to come over the habits that you developed over years and years. Give yourself time and indulge your mind in lighter activities; and nothing can be a greater fun and lighter activity than exploring the places you always wanted to. Eventually these places make newer blissful memories for you to remember. These memories (other than those of your ex) are highly beneficial in helping you come over him/her.
Eventually the habits too start fading away. The more you indulge yourself in social activities, the more you drift away from the past. Remember, what’s gone never comes back and similarly; it is useless wasting your present over your past. Never shy out in crying, as with passing time and tears, the pain gets lesser. However, if you create walls all around your heart (by never crying and becoming lost in the jungles of an un-real past world); you are harming no-one else but yourself.
Indulge in Regular Life
Once you gather enough happier memories that can help you in covering up the pain of your break up and make you smile; it is time to step into your regular routine. Join back your job, as it is you, who is eventually responsible for earning your bread and butter and no one else.
Such things in life make you a stronger and a wiser person if you trust time, and they tend to make you depressed and numb, if you stick back to those painful memories that were happier post your breakup. It is amazing to know that most of the women start refraining from people and make their own cold world. This is not the way to live life; instead, it is called as passing life. Life is a precious gift and you eventually get what is destined. ‘Never stop loving and living’ are the two mantra’s that always gives you internal strength in order to combat any hindrance.
Undoubtedly, long relations break up leaves a life ripped and shattered behind; but it only makes you stronger to face the realities of a mystery called as life. The more you believe in yourself, the more you learn living independently. Once you follow all the above-listed steps (ranging from basics to paramount steps), the mist starts getting clearer. You feel strength within, and once you survive a long relationship breakup; you are fully prepared to surpass every other debacle that can possibly happen in your life.
Once again you will fall in love with colors and roses, once again the morning sun will offer crystal beauty to the dew drops on flowers, once again the shades of the sky will look beautiful, and once again the chimes of your heart would ring to make you laugh out loud; only if you dare enough to live life rather than passing it away in the memory of a dead relationship. Enjoy the warmth of the present relationships rather than living in the cold and barren lanes of an abandoned street of a broken relationship.