Separation anxiety is faced by all children. The degree varies from child to child. In some cases, it gets extremely difficult, when the child refuses to stay without the parent or caregiver even for a short while.

It is often seen that some children cling on to the parents. This type of clinginess makes the day very unproductive for the parent since they will not be able to get on with their daily activities.

The child may persistently hold on to the parents and expect to be picked up or entertained all the time. It is important to help the child find his/her own space while still feeling secure with you not being around. Here are some ideas to help:

Try to leave the child with caregivers that they already know, like friends or grandparents and step out for a while. This gives the child an opportunity to be away from the parent, yet not feel so alone since the caregiver is someone they know well and does not feel anxious with.

Explain to the child why you need to step out and the approximate time that you will be back. This gives him/her the feeling that he/she is part of the process and is aware that the parent will not be around. On the same token, keep your word and return back at the promised time. This reinforces to the child that the parent is not abandoning them but will return at the promised time.

Playing games like peek-a-boo when the children are as young as 6 months, helps them understand object permanence. They realize that an object out of sight is not necessarily lost for ever. They then understand that parents will be there for them even if they step out for a little bit.

Prepare the children ahead if you are planning to go out instead of springing a surprise at the last moment which may lead to a tantrum. Shower praise on your child for handling separation. This way they learn to be independent and feel happy that you are proud of them!