When A Mother Loves Too Much

Have you ever heard of the saying, “less is more”?  This holds true for many things including love.  You may ask how this is possible.  You may think that you can never love someone too much.  But oftentimes, an excessive amount of love can be overbearing for the one receiving the love. 

The person who is subjected to overwhelming amounts of love may become completely dependent on the person providing the love and lose his/her own resourcefulness.  Such is the case with a mother that is overly protective of her child.

She may not realize it, but a mother who constantly dotes on her child can be doing more harm than good.  The child may become so accustomed to having the mother by his/her side to help and protect him/her that he/she either is afraid to try anything independently or is not capable of doing things for alone.

Mothers seem to be more over-protective of their sons than of their daughters, though both genders can suffer from the mother’s actions.  Following are some dangers of having an over-protective mother.

A child whose mother dotes on him and waits on him hand-and-foot never gets the opportunity to completely mature.  The child remains childlike and is unable to think for himself or take care of a situation when it arises.  The child also is unable to handle responsibility or does not welcome the challenge.

This is due to the fact that as a child, he was never held responsible for anything.  Children who have been protected by their mothers have a hard time handling criticism and often turn the criticism around on the other person in an insensitive manner.

This makes it difficult to have a successful personal or professional relationship.  Because the mother has trained the child to never feel at fault, an adult that was over-protected by his mother as a child will not admit to any wrong doings.  As far as these individuals are concerned, people should cater to them and take the blame for anything that goes wrong.

While a mother’s love is important to the development of a child, the mother needs to learn boundaries in order for her child to grow up to be a strong, independent adult.